A Mothers Rage.

Destructive Relationships.

That’s such a mild phrase, when you look at the mess they make of your life. Not just the person in the relationship, but their friends and family.

Sometimes the healing is even harder on the family than it is on the one affected. They have to hold their own feelings under strict control, because the last thing someone coming out of an abusive relationship needs, is to deal with the emotional overload of her family’s reaction.

My Daughter is coming out of a very bad relationship, one that I have had to endure and watch knowing things are not as they should be, and worse, watching how the sunny, wonderfully happy child I raised became a withdrawn, anxious, and broken woman.

I have to keep a civil tongue in my head as more and more horror’s are revealed to me the more she brings herself to talk about it. Two years, that monster had my child at his mercy for two fucking years! And I could do nothing, absolutely nothing… but pray and wait, and hope that one day she will see him for the disgusting beast he is.

He enticed her, turned her head, isolated her from her family, and then systematically destroyed her. This is not a young man, or even a reasonably looking man, he’s 20 years older than her, overweight and ugly.  But he can talk the talk, and he knew exactly what would draw my baby girl to him.

It took something really terrible for her to finally cut him out of her life, but even now I can see hope in her eyes as she opens yet another lies and  promise-filled email. I’m terrified that he will draw her back to him, even now.

How can this happen to us?

I was always under the impression that abused women, ended up in that sort of relationship because they were abused as children and don’t know any other way. But I was stupid, arrogant and so very wrong.

I raised my girls to be feminists, to be proud of being women, and to be strong enough not to need a man to live a full life. And yet she still got caught in this man’s web of lies and obsession, and stayed in it for far too long.

I got my daughter back, broken, shattered and fighting to get off her knees.  But she is fighting and you can be sure I am standing right there at her back, helping her all the way, and with all of my strength. My family have surrounded us and formed a circle of safety, love and understanding. We will protect her.

And if God is kind, that sick swine that brought her to this, will suffer the karma he so richly deserves!

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